Good Places to Cry

In the early days of mourning Hart's death, people were continually suggesting "good places to cry." I was incredibly grateful for the sentiment and their desire to help. I have compiled a list of some of those suggestions here:

At Home:
     In the shower
     While listening to REALLY loud music
     In a closet
     Into a pillow
     During a sad movie
     On the back porch

At Work:
     In a bathroom (preferably on a different floor)
     Under your desk
     In an empty office
     In a stairwell

On the Go:
     In your car
     On a run
     In the rain
     In the dressing room of a department store
     At a museum
     In a movie theater
     On the subway (or any public transportation)
     In the ocean
     In an elevator
     In a book store
     In a plant shop
     In a coffee shop
     In a hospital
     In a chapel
     Anywhere if you're wearing sunglasses

Some people are pretty criers, I am NOT those people!

But actually, why are people encouraging others to hide when they need to express their emotions? We shouldn't be ashamed of crying. Holding in emotions creates a culture that hides grief. It sends the message that grief isn't palatable for others, so tamp it down, box it up, keep it inside-you're on your own. It reinforces the idea that we should feel shame at the possibility of shedding a tear in front of others. Crying is beautiful. It is cleansing. It opens the dam and lets the pain out. It represents deep emotions. It is so freeing when you allow all those emotions to roll away from you.

My advice is there is no such thing as a "good place to cry," you should cry wherever/whenever you want or need to-it's both empowering and liberating-no matter where you are.